Times have drastically changed. Things we didn't even think twice about, such as going to watch a movie or eating at a restaurant with family and friends, is now being considered a thing of the past. The emergence of the COVID-19 virus has altered our usual ways of life. In its current state, we are left wondering how to navigate a new normal, which is additionally challenging if you have aging loved ones. You likely wonder, how can I keep them safe and comforted during COVID-19?  

Keeping Your Aging Loved Ones Safe

The idea of not being able to see our older family members and friends is not something we ever thought would become a choice in our lives. However, with the idea of keeping our loved ones safe and healthy, it is an idea we will have to get used to for the time being. Although there are many uncertainties, we still can do things for ourselves and our aging loved ones.  Here are some key steps that you can take to make sure your loved ones are safe and comforted, even if you aren't physically present to give that reassurance yourself. 

What To Do During COVID-19

1.  Communicate via Phone or Video

Something so simple can mean the world to our loved ones right now. Whether it's a phone call or a video call, there is always something comforting in letting our loved ones know that we are thinking of them in times like these. A distracting conversation can make a huge difference.  In addition, you can remind them about any medications they need to take throughout the day. One popular method of family group conversations is Zoom calls. You can use it with other apps like Skype as well. Getting the whole family together for one massive video call, can be distracting and good for the soul.  2.   Drop Off a Favorite Treat of Theirs Whether it's cookies or their favorite candle, dropping off something for your loved one lets them know that you are thinking of them. Feel free to get crafty and do your own DIY treats.  Right now, withholding contact is the safest way to drop something off, so porch drop-offs are recommended. If you don't have anything to give, that's okay too. Just giving your loved ones a quick wave from their window can make their day! Ask if They Need Anything This can go hand in hand with the above options, but simply reaching out and saying, "Hi, are you good on the essentials?" is a great way to keep your aging loved ones safe. This also takes the stress off of them if they're thinking about how they have to venture out to the grocery store or another public place to pick up some essential items. Let your loved ones know that you are available to provide help if they need anything.  3.   Watch Their Favorite Films with Them If you reside with your aging loved one, consider having movie nights with their favorite films. This can be nostalgic and fun for them, as well as a treat for you. Films can be a great gateway to another time. Many people watch their favorite movies and TV shows as a way to soothe any anxieties or stress. 4.   Have An Elaborate Dinner Cooking a warm and delicious meal can provide extra comfort during these times. If you live with your aging loved one, try new and old recipes together. Sitting around the dining table and having a relaxed conversation can distract and relieve anxiety.  If you don't live together, consider preparing a meal at home and dropping it off.  5.   Connect Them with Faraway Relatives Does your aging loved one ever mention a favorite cousin they miss talking to? If so, try arranging a phone or video call with their favorite cousin who lives in another country, or family that lives in another state. Right now, it is safe to say everyone as a collective craves communication. Socialization is actually considered a tool for happiness and longevity. 

What Not to Do During COVID-19:

Ignore Them

It seems like common sense, but don't go too long without communicating with your aging loved one. You don't want them to feel left out. During this time, a lack of communication could also cause them to worry about you. 

Scare Them

Another mistake would be to fill them with even more fear and anxiety than they already might be. Times do feel uncertain. However, you don't want to reach out to loved ones and sound scared or hopeless about the current situation.  If you are worried about their health or their safety, just remember to kindly remind them of the new steps they have to take to protect their health.

Make Them Feel Bad

This current situation is not only affecting them but everyone else as well. It is not just their safety that matters, but yours as well. Do not try and make them feel bad, or like you have to take extra precautions because of them. Yes, we want our aging loved ones to be around as long as they can, and we are willing to make the sacrifices for that to happen. However, this is no reason to blame or guilt-trip them because of the preventative measures we need to take. 

We're All in this Together

By following the steps above, you can help your loved ones stay safe and healthy. Right now, we all need a little extra comfort and reassurance. Therefore, whenever you can, reach out to your aging loved ones and let them know you are thinking of them. These hardships won't last forever, and we're all in this together.  Lastly, we know you can't do it all. If you need help during this time to check on your aging loved ones, consider a home health aide. They can provide personal assistance, home chores, and companionship when you're unable to. Contact Community Health Care to request a compassionate caregiver today.